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Losing Friends

When you become pregnant your whole priority list changes. Things that were important to you last week don’t seem to matter as much anymore. You grow up, your interests change, you lose friends.

I lost all my friends except one. The friends I had were the friends I went to parties with and when I got pregnant I couldn’t do that anymore. When I first learned I was pregnant, I was not ready to announce it. I told 3 of my closest friends. Next thing I knew my whole high school knew I was pregnant, my ‘friends’ took it upon themselves to announce it for me. I remember walking through the halls one day and someone who I considered to be my friend started to rub my belly (this was about a week after I found out I was pregnant) and I pushed her hand away. She goes, “It’s not like you’re going to be able to hide this forever.” (No sh***, Sherlock!) Ugh, I was so mad. I wasn’t ready to tell everyone, and I was still getting used to the idea of being pregnant.

When I announced I was going to keep the baby, my friends told me, “what makes you think you can take care of a baby when you couldn’t even prevent getting pregnant?” They told me I should to get an abortion. That hurt a lot. My friends were the people I had expected to be understanding and supportive. Luckily, I did have one friend who did support me, always had my back and helped me get through the rest of my school year. But, it still really sucked to hear those words come from the people who I considered my friends.

I shut myself out from everyone. I didn’t hang out with anyone at all. My friends became Zach, his family, and my mom. When I went to school, I didn’t go to socialize. I went to get my work done and I came home. That’s it.