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The ex-girlfriend drama

I really questioned if I should write about this or not, but this was a big stresser for me at the time and I am certain that other people experience or have experienced similar situations. You know, no matter who you date, there will always be some kind of ‘baggage’ you both have. And it can be very frustrating.

Zach and I went to the same high school but we don’t remember each other. We were two years apart and he dropped out my freshman year. Anyways, since we went to the same school, I knew the girls he dated. In fact, I was actually friends with one of them. His ex and I had become ‘school friends’ as I call it. (The kind of friend that I was friends with in school but never hung out outside of school.) She and I talked about their relationship a few times, but I didn’t put it together until after Zach and I had met. They were broken up for a while before I had met him.

When school started again, I felt really bad, almost like I was going behind her back. So I told Zach I wanted to tell her about us dating. It definitely didn’t go over the way I wanted it to and she kind of freaked out. I remember her telling me things like, I was dating her boyfriend. It definitely stressed me out because I never meant to hurt her and I had to see her everyday in the hallways.

Then, a couple weeks later Zach and I found out we were expecting. I was so scared of Zach’s ex finding out. (My exact thoughts were, “Uhhhhh, if she got upset when she found out we were just dating, how was she going to react to me being pregnant.”) I didn’t want her to hate me more than she already did or hurt her more and I did not want anymore drama that would stress me out. But it’s not something you can hide. She found out rather quickly and things got more dramatic for a while, but I learned to accept it and tried to ignore it for the most part. I had to ignore it in order to stay focused on finishing school, Zach and my relationship, and keeping our baby healthy.